ETIQUETTE

What is REAL?

REAL Club USA is an over 15yr old discrete  private membership required adult entertainment & social club dedicated to:

Educating the public and interested ones about the Alternate Adult Lifestyle,

Promoting Alternate Adult Lifestyle Interests,

Lifestyle socializing ,

Private &public practice of non traditional alternate lifestyles & interests,

Adult social activities & interactions,

Safe neutrally hosted member matchmaking & introductions,

Adult Meetings & Parties,

Respect for Privacy with regards to the exploration and involvement in Safe Legal Alternate Adult Interests and Lifestyle,

And Consensual Alternative Adult Relationships & Behaviors for private, discrete and discerning adults!

Membership is FREE!

Expect a kinky escape from the normalcy of traditional relationships with fellow members of distinction, glamour and kink! One on one introductions & parties are hosted by sexy open minded kinksters in one of our chic private locations. Members can alternatively request an introduction or party at their place. Dungeon hosting is optionally available by request as well. Members enjoy member to member introductions based on free erotic & non erotic criteria match making, small private parties, dress-up / roleplay & fantasy one on one meetings & parties with themes from the wildest imaginations even yours!

 

Meet a Sexy like minded Member that's interested in what you are interested in today or join an upscale party or request your own party ...

 

& get your KINK on!

 

PLUS- Free Basic Alternate Relationship Matchmaking!!! What are you waiting for?

 

Free Lifetime Membership, donate your club gift only when you meet the compatible member in person for one on one or to join a party!!! How cool is that!

Warm Regards

REAL Club USA

REAL Club USA is an upscale private adult club that means - 
THE UTMOST DISCRETION -- NO ADULT CLUB OUTSIDE SIGNAGE
DOORS ALWAYS LOCKED

INTIMATE COZY MEMBERCENTRIC PARTIES - NO BIG BOX PARTIES WHERE MEMBERS GET LOST
MEMBERS ONLY OR GUESTS ARRIVING WITH MEMBERS
ALL ARRIVING MEMBERS MUST SHOW MEMBERSHIP BEFORE BEING ADMITTED INTO THE CLUB
NO ONE IS ALLOWED TO EXCHANGE ANY PERSONAL INFO - DO NOT GIVE ANOTHER MEMBER YOUR PHONE NUMBER, SOCIAL MEDIA OR OTHER CONTACT INFO FOR ANY REASON -- DOING SO AS WELL AS DISCUSSING COST OF FANTASY ROOMS OR PRIVATE PARTIES OR MONEY WITH ANYONE OTHER THAN A MANAGER MAY RESULT IN EXPULSION AND REVOKING OF YOUR MEMBERSHIP OR A FINE.

ANY ADDITIONAL FUN THAT YOU'RE INTERESTED IN MUST BE DISCUSSED WITH A MANAGER. ASK FOR MANAGER AT THE MEMBER CHECK IN COUNTER.

REPORT ANYONE THAT MENTIONS MONEY TO YOU THAT WAS NOT SITTING AT THE CHECK IN COUNTER WHEN YOU ARRIVED.


Read the entire page even if the section appears not to be for you...

Every PARTY is different, but you can expect to find a bar, finger food, porn or explicit adult music videos playing on TVs, leather easily cleaned comfortable leather couches, a few playrooms and sexy ladies members that are hosting private parties - one on one or group parties in the playrooms - ask a manager about their parties.

As the saying goes, treat people in the way you want to be treated, sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly. and you will be treated the same! At adult parties if you're not friendly you're out!

Be friendly with every one, even when not wanting to take it further with them. There should be other things in common, or they may introduce you to people they think might be interested!

 

Many swingers don't swap or have intercourse with other couples until after going to two or more parties. Give them a chance to warm up to the adult party scene.

As with most people, swingers like gifts too! Text the party host and ask them if there’s any thing they're needing , always arrive with something for the hosts - a bottle/ snacks/420, people with gifts are quickly accepted!

Only do what you know is really fun for you! The whole idea is to enjoy oneself, that’s why the lifestyle and its parties exist. If no one seems interested, ask the host or manager - they will find someone that is compatible for your interests...  

Do not disturb the swinging enjoyment of others with prolonged talk. This may be very mood-destroying and very annoying! 

Enjoy yourself! Probably the most important advice, approach everything with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self!

BE FRIENDLY 

There’s no need to strip and start going at it as soon as you walk in the door. grab a glass of wine and a few snacks, and take a seat, watch a video. Make sure to ask other swingers what they like about other adult clubs they have visitied. Or what your what their favorite club is?  You might get great tips on the best nights to find what you’re looking for, whether it’s a huge party or a smaller, intimate event.

 

NEWBIE ORIENTATION

Newbie & New Swinger Orientation Any Newbie or First timer is welcome to come for New Swinger/Orgy/Group Participant Orientation 30 minutes before any party starts. If you miss it,  no worries, we will try to give you orientation during a party (as time permits)! In the meantime, this page really let's you know how to be a good team player!

 

EXCELLENT HYGIENE?

A no-brainer, surely? Apparently not. There are people out there who step out of the house in search of indiscriminate sex without showering first. Freshening up is essential! Bad breath & body order are turn offs. Here's a tip: Don't drench yourself with cologne - you will send a no signal before you get near anyone. A dab or two is all you need, if you need a shower, dont shower in cologne-it just makes it obvious that you are hiding how you really smell. Try a can of talc. Dab it on before you hit the venue or when you sweat.  It'll dry you out, and make you smell of lilacs. Lovely and subtle!

Not sure if you have excellent hygiene, or know you need to freshen up. Ask the manager for a hygiene kit (includes everything you need to freshen up - usually $20 or ask for a hygiene session - 15 minute clean up and inspection by the goddess $50. Guaranteed Excellent Hygiene if the goddess cleans you up!

 

WHAT TO BRING?

Bring a fun and lively attitude, some friends you like to swing with (pay their admission if necessary) , a toothbrush, a robe, cologne, CONDOMS (lots of them - most girls want you to change condoms when u change girls...u cant have too many, u can leave any extra, club charges $5 for 2, but when u rub out of condoms, you are out of options), extra sexy outfits, wash cloths, bath towel (or 2 - you sit on this so no one else minds sitting in that spot after u get up - club charges $5 for bath towel rental) , robe/pajamas/negligee, and mouthwash (simple right, mouthwash should be understood if you want to be with more than one person), diaper wipes (use these to clean anything you think might not be clean to your expectation). Rent a locker, makes you look like you belong there and you wont look like a creep walking around with your bag! 

 

If you feel something is not clean enough, ask for cleanser & a towel or bring your own wipes.

Bring a bath towel to sit on when naked.

WE WANT TO BE THE STANDARD IN HYGENE AND SAFE CLEAN FUN! LET US KNOW WHAT YOU THINK WE SHOULD ADD?

DRESS CODE

Ask host what the party theme is? Get into the theme as much as you can! It's  alright to show up with a wild costume, it will give guests an extra reason to talk to you! If there is no dress code, neat casual clothing and good grooming is the dress code! It communicates that you are respectful!

Adhere to the Naked Rule in the Playrooms

Once you arrive at a playroom, you are expected to get naked. Either take your clothes off or let someone undress you . If you can't get naked within a minute, leave the Playroom. Get naked even if you do not expect to play. If you are in a playroom, you are exxxpected to get naked.

BYOC (CONDOM) & WRAP UP YOUR TOYS

Another no-brainer. Most clubs have condoms available but what if you somehow didn't bring any? Make sure you bring your own stash just in case-by stash, we mean you should bring lots!  There's no point in going to a sex party if you can't have sex with anyone. Once you run out of condoms, you run out of options- buying them from the club might be expensive - expect 2-$5. Another note on preparation: Don't rely on the venue to supply vibrators, nipple clamps, or any other paraphernalia you might require. Bring your own. And don't get too eager. Toys have their place at an orgy, but always ask before using them on anyone.

 

Expect to change condoms everytime you change ladies or use a toy on a lady.

Don't be surprsed if you are asked to change condoms as approach a new lady.

Bring non latex condoms just incase - many ladies are allergic to latex...

Practice safe sex, It is up to every participant to protect his/her self and his/her partner. The use of condoms should not offend any one, it is not saying one is dirty, it is simple a means to protect all involved. Anyone not willing to use a condom is selfish and irresponsible.

DON'T GET  DISAPPOINTMENT SO EASILY

Don't attend expecting Eyes Wide Shut/50 Shades of Gray, or, for that matter, anything resembling the idea you have in your head; you're much more likely to find a room full of people who look like your aunts and uncles (even though we have several sexy young ladies as part of the club team, usually sexy petite or dancer body 22-26 year old ladies to host private parties). . While there are many very beautiful people into swinging—and upmarket events that cater to them, such as our elite Private Parties—chances are your average local swingers  will be a little more low-key. 

Realize, too, that group sex is not always what it appears to be in a porn video. Dave, a swinger friend, says: "I had a threesome on two occasions, both of which rank very high on my list of most profound regrets." Avoid regrets by making sure of YOUR interests...check out the group party but reserve a private one on one party as a backup.

Don't be upset if the name they gave you isn't their real name.

Don't be upset if it appears she had a great time with you but returns to her husband/boyfriend.

Don't be disappointed if you never see them again...

Don't be disappointed if you are asked to clean up or you are cleaned before you join a new couple.

Don't be disappointed if you only get to touch - some participants are new like you!

HAVE YOUR LADY APPROACH OTHER COUPLES

Assuming you go as a couple. LADIES GET THE MOST ATTENTION!  Adult Clubs are not dance clubs...going as an unattached  guy isnt going too get as much atention as you would if you bring a hot flirty lady with you ! A single girl will invite mass attention, which you may or may not be comfortable with, it's a good rule of thumb to get the most attractive of you to approach the other couples in the room. "Ange always goes in first," says Charles of his wife. "Charms them. She's not a bad looker still, and that reels them in." Just to make sure you have a great time, reserve the lounge admission to check things out and add a private party admission so you are sure to enjoy the night! Any couples or ladies you might be interested in bring party favors to share or buy drinks!

LEAVE YOUR SMARTPHONE IN THE LOCKER

Perhaps unsurprisingly, devices with built-in cameras and social media apps are not at all welcome at adult club & swingers events. Photographing and then sharing a scene—even if it's one you are involved with—is not OK. The person behind you may not appreciate you sharing their pic in your Instagram. Even putting out a clip on Snap-chat is a no-no. Everyone has agreed to protect everyone else's privacy - failure to do so, could cost you plenty.

ASK BEFORE YOU TOUCH - NO MEANS NO

An important rule, but quite obviously the most important. Swingers events may be populated by people who are generous with the physical expression of their sexuality, but they are never a free-for-all. Unless you get unequivocal consent, then back the fuck off. Just because a lady is naked, it does not mean you can touch her without permission...Nina a regular swinger says, "I'm always in a good mood at parties, but try to touch me without my consent, and I will burn your balls." It's important to understand that because a lady is naked, it does not mean any and everyone can touch her...ASK first!

The most basic and important in swinger party etiquette is the right to say no. A simple and polite No, thanks, is all that is required. There's no need to explain, as this may cause problems and hurt. Do not be afraid to say no, every one has the right, and if someone does end up doing things he/she doesn't want to it may cause more ill-felling and embarrassment. Do not be pushy If one fancies swinging with someone let them know in a nice, inviting way, if they say no, it is up to them. Do not ask them why, as this could be embarrassing and hurtful. If they decide not to swing with you, do not carry on and try to sweet talk them and flirt with them, as this may do a lot more harm than good. 

AVOID BEING FASHIONABLY LATE

The swinger party won't last forever. It's not a dance club where you show up late to make everyone think you are important. And dont expect the parking lot to look like a dance club either! Most participants want to have a great time, therefore many take a taxi/uber to the party  so they don't catch a dui on the drive home. If you make a decision about the party based on the parking lot not looking like a dance club, you will probably miss a great party! Adult parties are not about quantity but the quality of fun people participating want to have! 

 

There are 2 things different about a swinger/adult party. Arrive early or at least on time.

Arrive early or at least on time. Its not fashionable to turn up late to adult parties. People that arrive on time get to know everyone hanging out and for one reason or another (let's blame it on the alcohol/420) have begun to accept who they want to party with and they have made decisions about everyone...So when you show up fashionably late, since the night may have already got underway, people who may already be naked or getting ready to get naked may feel awkward when you arrive fully dressed and needing to warm up to the party!

Doors might be locked & they may not answer the door/phone until they are done partying...Arriving late, might make it harder for you to feel like you fit in. If you're arriving late text the party host in advance and check with them, they may update you on how the night is going. If you are allowed late entrance, be polite, apologetic, the host may have been waiting on you to add something to the party. 

BYOB (Bottle)

Most adult clubs have a BYOB alcohol policy. Here, you check in your bottle. We provide glasses, drink mixers, pours and drink delivery service usually $2. Most people like a few drinks at a party, drinking socially is fine, it may provide a good social platform to get to know other swingers, it may also help people relax! 

 

Overindulging is not a good thing though, as it may hinder physical and mental performance, and that is a turn off for many people. Drink moderately, take libido enhancing vitamins (or ask for them at the club) to increase you performance capability.

 

It is not safe for people to walk around the club with a bottle in hand. 

BYOPF (Party Favors)

We are a private club, means doors locked, party like at home! 420, Viagra (natural & otherwise), and anything that makes people want to party are OK to bring - always OK to check with the host - might be a night where most of the people prefer not to...

BYOT - (Towels )

Do you want to sit where his naked but & penis was? She probably doesnt want to site where yours was either!

If you do not bring towels - 2 large towels - 1 for sitting, one for shower, 1 wash cloth so you can clean up regularly, we will provide them for you at a required cost of 5 for rental & cleaning! We feature all leather furniture, feel free to bring sanitizer or wipes too!

COUPLES

Treat people like you want to be treated-sensitively, thoughtfully, understandingly...

If you’re thinking of taking a swing at it, being prepared is key if you don’t want your first time at a sex club to be your last....

Couples must Establish Ground Rules. Before stepping foot into a club — especially if you’re going with a significant other — know your limits. A few weeks before my first swing club outing, it was stressed to me the importance of knowing what you and your significant other can and can’t handle.​ It’s one thing to imagine it, and it’s another to actually confront it. If you and your boyfriend are at a swingers club with another couple, and she puts his cock in her mouth, are you going to freak out? Discuss with your partner your interests and limits before you arrive- check with each other before you start anything.

Just Say No. You’re never under any obligation to participate at a swing club, no apologies or excuses necessary. If someone you’re not into approaches you, a polite “no thank you” will get the message across. If that sounds too curt, explain that it’s your first time and you’re just there to watch.

Don’t Give Mixed Signals. 

FAIR PLAY RULE
if she does not party, her guy does not party, 
if she only allows touching, her guy can only touch,
if she only gets eaten, he can only eat someone,
if she gives oral, he can receive oral,
if she only gives oral to one person, he can only receive oral from one person,
if she is partying so much we cant keep up with how many or what she is doing, her guy can party so much that we cant keep up with what he is doing....
The FAIR PLAY RULE is just plain fair!

Do not take someone to a swinger/adult/group party who is not fully informed. This is an obvious one, don't take any one to a party who doesn't’t know what's they're going to or what they are going to do. Clearly decide those things at home or before you arrive! It is very embarrassment for every one, and probably may cause problems, if your girl doesn't know why she is there. 

 

Do not take A Ticket to a swinger’s party. A ticket is someone who goes with another person to the party just to get a guy in for a reduced rate (this is the reason for the Fair Play Rule). The ticket - always an unsuspecting female - has no intention swinging, of course no one HAS to swing, but if one person swings, it is normally expected that the other one is willing to swing or neither of them swing.

UNATTACHED LADIES & GENTS:

Ladies, if you’re going to the adult club alone, text the host and let them know  

 

 

make sure you don’t tack on a “maybe later,” if you’re not interested. You’ll regret it three hours later, when his hand is still on your ass. 

Ladies, concerned you might see someone you know? Our parties are small and everyone is sworn to privacy. Let us know if youneed someone to be reminded of the privacy clauses? 

Ladies may also request an escort into the party by a member of our staff (male or female). They will act like a date and let you know whats going on! You may also request a mask for anonymity or bring your own!

Always Ask First:

Before joining anyone that’s already fooling around, make sure they’re aware of your intentions. A simple “May I?” will suffice.

Who to ask:

Ladies, ask the lady in a couple, guys ask the guy in the couple. Don't be offended if they say no. Be respectful and you might find that they just needed a few moments to talk before they invite you to join their table or conversation. If you are disrespectful even once, you will get labelled as a problem and eventually everyone in the adult community will know you by that one act of disrespect.

Don’t just barge in: Wait for the right moment. If you have your eye on someone & they’re mid-multiple orgasm, hold off.

Dress To Impress? This isn’t your annual office Christmas party, so don’t be afraid to let a little leg show. Guys, a nice dress shirt paired with slacks (or nice jean) is standard.

Looking to make more of a fashion statement?

Get creative with your underwear. If there’s ever a time to break out the red silk boxers, this is it. Ladies, keep the denim at home and slip into the slinkiest dress you own (bra and panties optional), and top it off with a pair of heels - as tall as you can stand. If you’re wearing lingerie, make sure it’s not comically difficult to take off. And keep it sexy with a garter belt and stockings instead of control-top pantyhose. Guys wearing sexy underwear make the fashion statement.

Enjoy yourself. Probably the most importan piece of advice, approach every thing with an open mind and positive attitude, act out your fantasies, and enjoy your self. have a good time regardless of your expectations. Call to say thanks Always call or write to say thanks, for one thing it may get anyone invited again, and it may let the hosts know that they provided a good party. Bill was disappointed at a friends swinger party because he wanted to make out with all the girls there and had not even got close to one...but didnt want anyone to know so he decided to act like he was having the time of his life, before long, he had made out with half the girls at the party. If you follow this suggestion you'll always be well received in a swinger party. 

HOW TO THROW YOUR OWN PARTY?

Well this may seem like a simple thing, though it can be a lot of work. The first thing you must do is clean your house. May

seem like common sense right? Well you would be surprised! Please put clean sheets on the bed and have clean towels for your guests. Figure out which rooms are which in your home. Which room should be the “social area”, which rooms should be private, and which should be open. Make sure you have enough parking for your guests, and please keep the pets outside or in another room.

If you have children it is best to have them spend the night with a friend or relative. Even if they are upstairs in bed, they might still want a glass of water later ... you can imagine how awkward that could be for your child and your guests!

Choose a nice variety of music to play. Hard rock like Metallica may not be the best choice! You want to be sure that everyone is comfortable so try to choose soothing, relaxing music for your party--nope try wild erotic hip hop music so everyone is in the mood or put porn on the tvs. You may also want to consider providing some sexually oriented games for people to play. This can be a great icebreaker for people who are new to the lifestyle! It is also a good idea to provide some extra condoms for those who forgot to bring their own.

It is nice to designate a smoking area for your guests. A patio, garage, or specific room can be used for this purpose. Weather or not you are a smoker yourself; others may find this habit offensive, while others really need to grab a smoke! You want everyone to be comfortable at your party. If you want to make it public, don't forget to post your private party on our  Members Calendar.

As for the rest, we are sure you can figure it out. A party is a party! Invite people whom you know, trust 7 like to have fun with or would like to have fun with. Maybe you can come up with a “theme” for your party too! Just keep in mind that this is supposed to be a fun night for you too. Don’t wear yourself out! 

We have party packages that start at free for full swap couples! Or if you have a couple you want to invite, invite them out for a nite or have us do it for you - $100 each includes their admission and use of a playroom for both of you. If you get 4 or more couples to pay admission, the admission is free for you!

Why go thru all that work to setup a party when you can just let us do it for you while you just have FUN!

Reserve now & we will see you soon! More After the pics below...

DON'T OVERSTAY YOUR WELCOME

Know when to leave the room or club. Dont ask anyone fortheir number nor give anyone yours. The whole point o going to a private club / party or anonymous sex is that it's anonymous. After you've finished partying with a couple, don't make the mistake of trying to hang out with them. Familiarity breeds contempt, after all. And it's also just kind of awkward and weird—nobody likes a hanger-on, especially when they're naked and grinning at you. On the same note, don't let your conversations before or after get too deep–much better to leave things shallow and superficial. Violating privacy by giving out or accepting someone's phone number may cost a stiff penalty against your membership. If you see someone you know, act like you are a different person with a different name. Dont walk up and ask how have you been. Wait for them to approach you, if they act like they do not know you, let it be.  Do not mention anything about anyone's activities at the club once you leave the club- it is a violation of privacy...

Proper protocol, ask them to meet you at the club again tomorrow or next week!

FINALLY

Text, Blog, twitter to say thanks. Always let tthe host know you had a great time, this is the easiest way to get invited to another party! It may let the hosts know that they provided a good party and may make them open to your suggestions for the next party or they may allow you to have your own party! If you follow all the suggestions on this page you'll always be well received at Adult / Group/ &  Swinger parties! 

See you soon!